Masturbation, for many boys, is something they will experiment with in their lives—at least a few times, if not habitually. As for teen boys, it is very common. With something that is so common for boys, it is good for parents to have a response about. How do we plan for conversations about it? How should we talk to young boys about masturbation? For the record, yes, I know women and girls masturbate, and yes, daughters should receive education about this as well.
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Parents are generally unprepared for how much a child will touch, grab, pull, poke and probe their own genitals. And the reason they are unprepared is that it happens far sooner than most expect. The problem with all of this is that most adults lack the proper context to address the issue in any kind of reasonable way. Kids exploring their own bodies is tangled up in millennia of baggage and hang-ups about sex. That puts parents on edge, and when parents on edge they may resort to shame or anger to stop a practice they consider abnormal or even immoral. But the harsh truth is that a child who masturbates is neither immoral or abnormal.
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The videos show classrooms of young children discussing such issues as transgenderism and masturbation with instructors. Sex-Ed School is an entertaining and educational YouTube series about sexuality and healthy relationships for youth, ages Each episode features two expert hosts, Nadine and Eva, leading a respectful and authentic dialogue on sexual health, and guiding participants through fun and thought-provoking activities about specific topics. Gender expression is how a person chooses to express themselves, while gender is how they feel on the inside. Eva and Nadine discuss pronouns and the kids learn more about what gender is all about. We meet Kaleb, a trans man who shares his gender journey during a fun and informative Q and A. As well, the kids play a game of musical-chairs-with-a-twist to learn more about how everyone can feel comfortable expressing who they are. Some people born with vulvas can be boys. I have scars on my chest.
Talking to your child about masturbation may feel a little awkward, embarrassing or even deeply uncomfortable. But these are necessary conversations for parents who want to raise kids with a healthy understanding of sex and their bodies. Instead of seeing it as a problem to solve, think of it as an opportunity to teach skills and concepts that empower young people to grow into sexually healthy adults. To help inform these conversations, HuffPost spoke to Cavill and two other sex educators about the best ways to talk to kids about masturbation, or self-touching.